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Saturday, July 1, 2017
What is Acu Energetic Healing?

First let me explain how I came to develop this system.

I have been doing private coaching sessions with clients for well over a decade. I specialize in identifying a negative belief in a person's subconscious mind that engenders unsupportive or unhealthy behaviors. For example, if someone has a pattern of acting jealous in romantic relationships, we would dig into that person's core belief system and more often then not, we would find a belief such as "I'm not worthy to be loved". That negative belief prompts them to behave in ways that are destructive to their relationships. In this particular example, the belief "I am not worthy to be loved", can create serious digestive problems. It is harder to break-down food and absorb the nutrients of what we eat, as food like love, nourishes us.

After doing hundreds, no, thousands of sessions, very clear correlations between negative beliefs and health issues became obvious to me. I came to the profound knowing that every disease can be healed if you can heal the consciousness attached to the disease.

Your body is governed by your mind. If you shift your mind, your body's chemistry shifts as well. The body automatically follows the patterning of the mind. In fact, as Dr. Candace Pert puts it, "your body IS your subconscious mind". In other words, your body is a manifestation of your mind. Your body is like a map that we can read to understand what goes on at the subconscious level of a person.

I know with my whole being that no one has to be a victim to their diagnosis. In fact, they can use the opportunity of a " diagnosis", to take back their personal power by taking care of what needs to be healed at the mental and emotional levels. By shifting their negative beliefs and healing old emotional wounds, a person not only create the space for the body to onset its own healing, but their lives automatically get upgraded in all areas, such as better relationships, fulfilling careers, and greater abundance.

I believe that everything that shows up in our lives can be an opportunity for self-growth. That opportunity points towards a specific inner issue that needs to be resolved to create greater peace and fulfillment in our lives.

So, what is Acu Energetic Healing exactly?

ACU is in reference to the Ancient Wisdom of Chinese medicine based on the universal YIN/YANG theory, and the acupuncture meridians that run through the body.
In the AEM system, we look at whether an organ is yin or yang (feminine or masculine) and whether it is affected by cold, heat, dampness or wind. We also look at whether it is in a state of deficiency or in a state of excess.
For example, let's say that a person suffers from peptic ULCERS.

Here is the breakdown of how we extract key information about the subconscious cause of a health issue: you first have to find out which organ is affected, then determine the essence of the organ, and finally determine if the "injury" is by heat, cold, damp or wind. For the client with peptic ulcers, the answers go as follows:

Affected Organ: STOMACH
Essence: YANG (masculine)
Injury: excess HEAT

So it is a Yang organ injured by Heat.
Based on the Acu Energetic Healing data base, the 3 possible issues in a person related to this type of organ injury are:

A) Victim of aggression, witness of aggression; Withstanding long-term abuse; internalization of abuse; victim of humiliation;

B) Attempt to protect one’s self, especially by projecting a false sense of strength.Covering up vulnerability.

C) Attack in one’s sense of Freedom; Lack of choice, feeling restricted or trapped.

Once a person gets in touch with what their ulcers are related to, they can "integrate" the part of their self that is stuck in the consciousness that caused the ulcers. For example, I have a client who actually used to suffer from ulcers and who was trapped in a job in which he felt stifled and overpowered by an abusive employer. It took him 12 years to leave that job, as he was worried about supporting his family. The part of him that needed to heal was the part of him that we called the "Trapped one" and the "Abused one". So much anger was repressed in his body, it was hurting his stomach in terrible ways. He basically had to "stomach" and internalize the daily abuse of his boss without seeing a way out of that situation. He felt trapped.

The way to healing is of 3 parts:

Step 1- Intention, step 2- Integration, Step 3-Action

Step 1) My client 's Intention was to have a boss who appreciated him and a job in which he felt free and empowered.

2) He Integrated the energy of the parts of him called the "Abused One" and of the "Trapped One". The core belief for him was "I am not good enough". An integration is a healing method that involves emotional clearing and replacing a negative belief with a positive one. It is an effective and common healing therapy method that can be learnt by all. There are many ways to do an integration, but the core of this type of therapy is to change a painful belief and heal an old emotional wound. My client programmed a new belief within himself: " I am powerful". Doing these integrations allowed for new job opportunities that were in alignment with my client's intention of freedom and appreciation to show up.

Step 3) He took action and looked for a new job and left the abusive one. Drinking chamomile and cutting stomach lining irritants such as coffee for a while, all promoted and created a positive environment in which his stomach tissues could heal.

Note: My client did not take another job, instead he chose to start his own company. Integrating negative beliefs allowed him to feel more confident and empowered enough that he felt inspired to start his own business. He very successfully sold it 2 1/2 years later!

I hope this helps to show that we do not have to succumb to a diagnosis. We can look for what needs to heal within ourselves and in our lives and take proper action.

Please do reach out to me with your questions and comments, I'd love to hear from you. And if this information resonated with you, sign up to my newsletter at the top of this page. You'll get my free "tips and trick"s to magnetizing more abundance for free!
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Blessings,

Lilia




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Wednesday, June 28, 2017
Got Wisdom?

Do you share your Wisdom? Or do you feel unsure that what you learned in life would be considered Wisdom? Do you unconsciously suppress your natural impulses to offer up words of support to others?

Over 10 years ago, at a "personal growth" seminar hosted by cherished Dr. Wayne Dyer on the beautiful island of Maui, I looked around and enjoyed observing the sheer excitement on the attendees’ faces. I could also not help but notice the subtle scent of desperation hovering over the collective audience. We were the fatigued wonderers in the hot desert, and Dr. Dyer was the promising oasis on the horizon. From everywhere around the globe, young and old and of every color on the spectrum, people were avidly clinging to each word spoken by the wise man on the podium.

In the question-answer part of the event, many of my fellow seekers came to the microphone to ask specific questions to the Sage. Questions such as:

“My father abandoned my family when I was seven years old. I never was able to trust men since then. How can I finally move forward and find the man of my dreams?” or:
“My teenage son is spinning out of control. He uses drugs and refuses to get help. What should I do?”

As Dr. Dyer began to answer with wisdom sharp enough to cut through any concrete head in the room, hands in the audience started to raise. I was shocked. Those tough questions were now being tackled by random members of the audience! I incredulously thought, “apparently, we have more than one guru in this room”. However those folks did have an edge - they had actually experienced similar challenges and overcome them. They knew their stuff. Needless to say, phone numbers were exchanged and new friendships formed.

Over the three days, people were brilliantly helping one another and facilitating life-altering breakthroughs. Having collected a few numbers of my own, I came to reflect on the new relationships I had entered. Were they friends? It occurred to me that they were not just friends in the usual sense of the word. They were a specific category of friends: some I identified as my “mentors” and others as my “protégés”. The “protégés” were those facing any particular challenge, lost on a foreign and hostile path. On the other hand, the “mentors”, having once walked the path, enthusiastically fulfilled one valuable function - they would point towards the right direction, giving warnings of the obstacles laying ahead, providing clarity and guidance to the grateful “protégés”.

I was both, a mentor and a protégé. As a mentor, I knew what it took to leave an emotionally abusive relationship. I am still friends today with a young woman who once said to me: “If it wasn’t for you, I would still be miserable living with my ex-husband. I am so much happier today”.
Simultaneously, I was bluntly incapable of making choices for myself without constantly worrying about what my parents would think. Yes, I was a pathological “people pleaser” and my over-sized conscience appeared to double in volume when it came to my parents. I found great clarity while speaking with a woman who was surprisingly insightful about the subject. Our exchanges were very reassuring for me because I knew she genuinely understood how I felt - she had also been reared by overly selfless parents who would sacrifice everything for they children. My enslaving guilt was once hers.

As I listened to the countless testimonials and life stories from various audience members, I was struck by an odd truth-we all are experts in something. Whether it be about recovering from a bad break-up, conquering cancer, or facing a teenage son who is struggling with drugs, all human beings have one thing in common: we face challenges, somehow overcome them and in the end are left with a life lesson, a.k.a wisdom that you can share at no personal cost, while making a significant difference in the life of someone in need. The only requirement is to be in a state of Compassion. That's it. No judgment, just Compassion.

I left the seminar overwhelmed with emotions. A sort of a “high” you can only feel on those rare occasions where human beings come together to help one another while authentically expecting nothing in return.

So who "got wisdom?” I am thrilled (and somewhat relieved) to report: if you have a heartbeat, you have wisdom. You don’t have to be ten years ahead of someone to help them. You don’t have to be even one year ahead. You don’t have to be “enlightened” either. All you need to be is one step ahead and know where that step is.

Blessings...


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Wednesday, October 2, 2013
There is no Truth that sticks around for long

What I have found is that trying to take one thing that is true for you right now in this very moment and apply it to any other moment in your life, will inevitably give rise to a lie.

Truth never repeats itself twice. It is always changing as our consciousness and circumstances are always changing and evolving. The key is to be present and connected in. That inner presence will guide you to the right choice for you.

To make a decision the mind looks for "known" information and data from the past. However, whatever happened in the past only applies to the past. The past cannot repeat itself because with every moment that passes, you become a different person with a different perception, while surrounded with a different set of circumstances energetically and physically.

Life is not about avoiding repeating the past. It is about extracting the lesson from those past experiences and bringing this new knowledge to what lies ahead. It is not about avoiding the present, trying to protect yourself from the present. It is about walking into the present with greater wisdom, depth and a new intention to grow closer to being your Higher Self.

So when a familiar and seemingly tricky and less than ideal situation presents itself to you, do not systematically avoid it. You may want to consider walking into it and exercise the wisdom that you have acquired and see where destiny takes you. So just check in and connect in...then decide with your whole heart and a pinch of your mind.

Blessings of Love,

Lilia


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Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Flow


Flow is beautiful, isn’t it?

Flow, the essence of movement, is what I love about music and dancing.
Beauty just drips out from the juicy continuous series of sounds and movements...one after the other...one rolling into the other...one tipping off into the other. A magnificent succession of states of equilibrium broken in an instant by the pleasurable entrance of new sound or movement- creating a new wave of energy, surging and seeking balance and equilibrium, all for just an ephemeral ever-so subtle point of perfect balance...Only to be exploded into chaos by the next wave of energy.

Flow...A series of alternating states of balance and chaos. Balance, chaos, balance, chaos. But for most of our human psyches, it reads like this: balance, crisis, balance, crisis, balance, crisis!

Is it possible that what we all thirst for in our lives, “flow”, is also what we push away?

The illusion commonly shared seems to be that flow means everlasting balance. But in truth, flow is a smooth series of moments of balance, broken by moments of chaos moving into balance again. How is it smooth?
“Flow” happens when those alternating states of being are met with zero resistance. The “chaos” only becomes “crisis” when resistance is introduced. The pushing against, the constricting and the battling- all create pain. Somehow we let ourselves be fooled by the idea that the more pushing against we do, the greater the relief to our pain.

But why do we resist chaos, which is only another word for change? Change can be synonym for many of us of Threat. Threat of loss of control. Deep into the most basic part of our Selves, we fear that once we lose control, we may never find balance again...and die.

However, to the most radical contrary, change is a natural state and is the essence of Life. It is part of Mother Nature, and part of us as physical beings and extensions of Mother Nature. Our thoughts change, our feelings change, our emotions change, our body chemistry changes every second. Our bodies are in a perpetual state of change...but they look stable to us. For the most part, we do not perceive the continuous cycles of change and equilibrium within our physical bodies, because they happen so fast. They happen fast because no wave of change is ever met with resistance. Our bodies just accept the new input of data that reflect a given biological state, and adjust accordingly to maintain a state of biological equilibrium.

The hidden treasure at the heart of all this, is a two-fold secret. First, balance arises from change. In fact, balance only exists because of change. Balance and change are one and the same. One exists only in the context of the other. Together, they create movement. Movement is Life.

Second, the fastest way out of chaos into balance is...Acceptance. The instant that we accept and even welcome change as it enters our lives, we are in balance again. Hence, balance never comes from re-establishing control over our environment. That never lasts. Balance emerges from a state of Acceptance.

When Life summons us to adapt to new sets of circumstances, we must recall this: It never is about the change itself, but rather about our ability to let go of the past and embrace the new. As we master this ability to surrender and accept, we begin to experience life as a continuous state of smooth flow. Change becomes imperceptible.

And Life becomes a smooth dance, graceful in its rising and surrendering...

Beauty.


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Friday, September 14, 2012
Are you stuck?

Many people feel stuck in life. They have wishes and aspirations, a vision, a life that they wish to create for themselves...but they cannot seem to diligently take the steps towards creating and bringing their vision into concrete reality.

They feel like they just can't get past the inspiration part and actually bring it into manifestation.

This can be incredibly frustrating...most of us know that feeling.

Have you found yourself in "escapism" mode? Avoidance mode? Distractive mode? Do you see yourself doing everything else but applying yourself to doing your true life Purpose work?

Well, take a relieving breathe...because you are not alone. You actually are pretty "normal" and there is nothing wrong with you.

We ALL go through that. Virtually everyone that is enjoying living out their purpose had to experience that stage of latency, stagnation, avoidance and hesitation.

Why do we get stuck? Why can't we, once we figured out our Purpose, just move forward wth Ease and Grace with it?

The answer is this: there is nothing like accepting and wanting to do your Purpose to bring up to the surface all the fears and false beliefs about yourself. Accepting to "live your life on Purpose", becomes a path of, first and foremost, self-healing.

There are many parts within you that have different agendas than actually fulfilling your highest potential.

For example, you may have a "procrastinator" persona, that keeps you safe from facing your fears of not succeeding, or from enduring the pain of taking on a task.

Or you may have a "self-destructive" persona, that drives you to engage into self-destructive behaviors to keep you from confronting the feared possibility that you are incapable of succeeding, that you are not good enough and therefore not worthy. Feelings of unworthiness drives us to crave self destruction.

Or you may have a "timid or shy" persona that keeps you from speaking or expressing yourself. That one may keep you safe from experiencing shame or embarassment. It may keep you safe from running the risk of being discovered that you are a fraud or that you are not good enough in whatever ways.

The list is extensive and keeps going.

But the good news is this: you can transfom and shift those personas.

What are your personas? Spend a little time with yourself, and list all the personas that play a role in keeping you stuck in life, unable to reach your goals.

Know that these personas can be transformed into parts of you that actively and efficently work for you, instead of against you. You can integrate those personas back into your Higher Self.

Integrate, integrate, integrate! And keep moving.

In love and light,
Lilia



5 Comments on "Are you stuck?"

Sonya commented on Friday, September 14, 2012
I have a "hidding" persona!!



David T. commented on Friday, September 14, 2012
Thank you Lilia for this blog. I have observed that I have a part of me that consistently sabotage my efforts. It's like clockwork.
I have booked a session. Did you get my email?

christelle commented on Sunday, September 23, 2012
I love that you explained why feelings of unworthiness drive us to crave self destruction.
I had 4 chocolate bars last week when I felt like I failed to teach a good class at the rehab ( I simply didn't give them the best of my energy and felt like such a disappointment to myself)
It all makes sense now, feelings of unworthiness drove me to self destruction.
We have got to integrate that self-destructive persona, I have had it with her!!!
Can we make an appointment for this week?

Manjunath commented on Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Your insights into the modern human condition will ring true to anyone with an ear for honest self-reflection and the good sense to have salvaged something of lasting value from the wreakage of difficult personal experiences.

There is fear of failing and there is fear of succeeding but the common denominator is still fear.

I've had a framed success quotation by Ralph Waldo Emerson hanging on my bathroom wall for over 15 years that reads:

"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a better place whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded".

I need to read your blog more often Lilia. Please keep up the great work you've embarked upon.

Lilia commented on Friday, September 28, 2012
Thank you everyone for your comments! Christelle, I have a chocolate monster myself :-)

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Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Grieving Lungs, Angry Liver.


In a recent session with a client, I will call her Jamie, something truly unusual and remarkable happened. Jamie wanted to work on whatever was inside of her that kept her from being in a romantic relationship. She looked happy but had a little cold. We proceeded and started the session. She shared that she felt lonely and could not understand why none of her dates ever turned into something meaningful.
Jamie is a true “uplifter”. In social settings she always offers a radiant smile to all, and NEVER complains. She is the shining sun and joyful singing bird. She is so pleasant to be around, so approachable and is such a beautiful woman inside and out, that it can be truly puzzling that none of her dates ever turned into something more serious, despite her apparent willingness.

Intuitively, it was clear to me that something was hiding behind this radiant smile. As we delved into the session, we came face to face with a part that Jamie labeled “the disconnected one”. We found out that this part was blocking her from truly connecting with men. Jamie had gone through a painful break up some years prior, and the "disconnected one’s" task was to protect her. She was to be all smiles and to keep things light and pleasant with men, so as to never open up by fear to allow someone into her heart again. So the men she dated all matched her energetically: they kept things light and meaningless with her. I asked Jamie what the primary emotion of that persona was, but she was confused as to what that was, which is typical when someone is very identified with a persona. So I asked her where the emotion was held in her body- Jamie with her eyes closed proceeded to place both of her index fingers to two specific points (the same bilaterally). To my astonishment, Jamie had pointed to a point on the upper aspect of her chest, close to her axillary fold, or underarm area. This point, bilateral on the human body, is referred to in Chinese medicine as Lung 1 (see picture above). This point has many indications such as coughing, bronchitis, and throat problems, as well as prolonged grief and sadness. Jamie, a dancer and actress, had no knowledge of acupuncture whatsoever. But she instinctively pointed to an actual acupuncture point on her body! I was astounded. So naturally, I asked Jamie if the "disconnected one" was sad. Jamie started to cry, nodding a yes. Often sadness is experienced in the broader areas of the throat and center of the chest or even in the abdomen. But since Jamie was unable to feel the emotion at that moment, her Higher Self answered me in the language of acupuncture. In doing so, her Higher Self revealed not only one of the primordial causes of the lack of true intimacy in her life, but also most probably a major playing factor in her recurring cold issue, because quite literally put, her lungs were sad.

It is important to know that major organs are associated with particular emotions such as sadness for the lungs, or a particular negative behavior that people will engage into, such as the inability to make a decision when the gallbladder is affected . When you experience a negative emotion, it directly affects a specific organ. For example, when getting angry, a lot of energy will move upward causing headaches, dizziness, a red complexion, and blood shot eyes. In severe cases, it can even cause an aneurism, a rupture of a blood vessel in the brain caused by an abnormal increase of the cranial blood pressure. In Chinese medicine, those are all signs that the life force of the liver also called “liver qi”, is rising. It is call "Liver Yang Rising". Most people may not have an outburst of anger every day, but they certainly get frustrated on a daily basis. I call frustration the little sister of anger, and each bit of its energy gets accumulated into the energetic make-up of the liver, and eventually, when the load becomes too great, it densifies going from the emotional subtle body, to penetrating and affecting the tissues of the physical body. Now tangible symptoms such as hypertension are experienced.

Often, people who suffer from hypertension will have particular points along the meridian of the liver channel running along the body that are sore and tender to palpation. When I come across a point that is sore, I ask my client questions such as “ what part of your life angers you or frustrates you?”. From there, we together go on a quest to identify the part of themselves or persona that is angry. What is his or her story? What “sets her off”? What is her behavior? What was the original point of “pain” at which she was first created? This is powerful. Bringing light and recognizing the “part” of you that holds the negative energy that triggered the physical illness in the first place, can support physical wellness and healing.

People often suffer from chronic illnesses that could have been avoided had they habitually transmuted the negative emotion when experienced. Keeping a hygienic emotional body is as important as keeping the physical body clean. It is important to “check in” and be present to what your body is telling you. Do you experienced tension in your abdomen, dull pain in your flank areas, or recurrent headaches? Do you experience tension in your back? To avoid full blown illnesses later, it is vital to never ignore the "minor" signs and symptoms that show up in your body. They are indicators of two things: 1) stagnant energy that needs to be transmuted that negatively affect your body, and 2) they are energetic blockages that keep away the things that you want to manifest in you life. The sadness of Jamie’s persona that she called the “disconnected one”, not only contributed to the recurrence of her colds and thereby weakening her lungs, but also kept her energetically from being open to romantic intimacy, even though it is exactly what Jamie desired.



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Melanie Peters commented on Saturday, March 31, 2012
Very nice Blog, I am a former USM student who has relocated :( to Mississippi and I am looking for a counselor. Do you do distance counseling?

Beautiful photos Jamie! Love the mildde one with the blown-out background. The boudoir 101 sessio commented on Sunday, August 26, 2012
Beautiful photos Jamie! Love the mildde one with the blown-out background. The boudoir 101 session is a great idea too I'll keep an eye out for those details. I stopped by your site because I just received an email from Skinny Raven that mentions you'll be doing photos at the Alaska Lives Summit at the zoo this weekend. I'll try to get over there to say hello and check out all the activity.~ Karen

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Tuesday, November 15, 2011
What got you going exactly?

Whenever a person triggers you, first scan your own consciousness and see if you are not projecting something of yours onto the person. A common example of that is when somebody's eating habits bother you. Are you annoyed with your own eating habits? Is there a part of you that you wish to change in regards to food?

Another similar way to become aware of your own ego parts, is to see if what triggered you does not already exists within you. For example, someone's neediness may really annoy you, to the point of feeling contempt or disgust for them. What part of you do you despise because it is needy as well? Becoming aware of a similar part in ourselves that we spotted on someone else, can be one of the hardest things to accept.

Finally, see if what triggered you isn't a response to a matching opposite vibration within you. For example, if you feel angry that somebody bosses you around, ask yourself "what part of me gives her power away?" or "what part of me feels inferior?"

When you are "triggered", it is always because something within your ego structure got bothered. I was once asked "How do we know it is in fact our ego and not just a legitimate reaction?" Because only your Ego is capable of a negative emotion.
When someone acts out of alignment, you can simply recognise that they are out of alignment. You can be an observer. However, if you find yourself annoyed, angry, or hurt, it is always an emotional cue that something within you needs healing. It is a clever universal feedback mechanism. It is an opportunity to gain awareness about one of your blind spots and heal it.

Be aware of your emotional reactions to somebody or something. Take responsibility for your part. A negative emotion is an attempt from the Universe to communicate that something within you is ready for transformation.

Blessings of conscious awareness to all,
Lilia



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your name commented on Tuesday, November 15, 2011
As always, your wisdom is appreciated! Thank you. I want to add that there is also the opportunity to see how one is treating herself the same way inside. If someone else is judgmental, for example, and it bothers me, where am I judging myself or others? Same thing, different way of expressing it. LOVE!

Kalidas commented on Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Great Blog Lilia!

Christelle commented on Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Thank you for the little reminder
I actually got a little taste of my ego in this kind of sense today and then I remember when you told me "if you can spot it, you got it".
How bummed was my ego it got busted so quick today and lost the battle!!

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Saturday, October 29, 2011
Self Love and Money

Money is about Self-Love. Most people who lack money have a limited understanding of who they really are. They do not know the power that lies within them to attract money and create prosperity in their lives.
Money is energy. Money is freedom, goodness, security, stability, it is that which offers sustainability. You can see it as a form of Love. Are you able to receive Love? Do you believe at your core that you are worthy of Love? That you are worthy of money and prosperity? Can you receive?
How much you allow yourself to receive is a reflection of how much you love your Self.
You are not separate from the energy of money. Therefore, the more you love your Self, the more money you can manifest. When you feel inadequate, guilty, ashamed, angry, and critical of who you are, you are not able to attract money. In fact, you repel it and will tend to have more money leaving your bank account than money coming into it.

You are part of the Universe. You are part of the Supreme Intelligence. When you are having negative thoughts and emotions at the individual level, you no longer are serving the Whole. When you offer a negative vibration into the Collective Field, you are no longer serving It by contributing to its expansion. A negative vibration is not able to create and manifest something that is positive. A negative vibration inhibits the expansion of the Universe. It creates limitation.
Why?
A negative thought keeps you from expressing your inner power and fulfilling your Purpose. If you are not fulfilling your Life Purpose, you are not contributing to the positive expansion of the Collective Field of love and well-being.
The Universe is a self serving entity. It will always favors those who are the most efficicently contributing to its ever-expanding nature, which are those who are fulfilling their Life Purpose.

Does being on Purpose always means Abundance?

If you feel that you are on Purpose but are experiencing scarcity, then look inside your individual Consciouness: do you truly appreciate and Love your Self? Or do you doubt yourself, feel inadequate, don't trust yourself, feel unworthy, feel that you are not enough, in other words: do you feel fearful?
Start by identifying the parts of your Being that don't appreciate who you are and do not support you. Identify the negative beliefs and shift them.
As you heal the parts of you that hold negative beliefs and emotions, you will discover that you either were not completely on Purpose, or that you were too fearful at the core to be successful.

Shifting your negative beliefs is the most important step towards experiencing Prosperity in all its forms:spiritual, emotional and financial.

Prosperous blessings to all!!
Lilia

ps: should you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me at lilia@liliabirem.com

Note- I have received a recurring question to this blog post: "Many people who have a lot of money are also very egoic, and it is even difficult to be around them. How did they manage to attract financial prosperity?"

I addressed this issue in my blog post of July 27th 2011, entitled "Create more space within you to attract Abundance". Please scroll down to read it. Thank you for all your comments and questions!




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Christelle commented on Sunday, October 30, 2011
I'll have to add that it's so relieving when you realize that the solution to any financial worries lies within us. I would have never hoped to have so much prosperity in my life. I simply wasn't open to it. I could never thank coach Lilia enough for helping me become conscious of those beliefs and showing me how to clear them so that I can now enjoy the peaceful and prosperous life that we all are originally destined to live.

Lesley commented on Tuesday, November 1, 2011
This post is another reflection of the clarity and wisdom you possess Lilia. I love how you mentioned that if one is not in their purpose, they are not serving the expansion of consciousness. I think I need to see you soon :)

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Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Goddess Meditation: Bringing love and appreciation to your body

Here is a powerful meditation to awaken absolute LOVE and APPRECIATION for your feminine body.

- Put on some meditative background music.

-Sit up straight and close your eyes. Calm down your breathing. Imagine you are breathing light.

-Accompany each breath of Light into your abdomen and down into your uterus.

-Breathe out all worry, stress, anger, frustration, doubt, tension and fear.

- Do this for 6 breaths.

- Now bring your attention into your uterus, feel the love there. Your womb is pure love. Using your breath, imagine bringing it more love, appreciation, gratitude.

-Extend that love to your fallopian tubes. Can you feel the high, focused, condensed intelligence that they are? Bring them a wave of abundant love. Bathe them in that love.

-Now go into your ovaries. Say hello to them. Acknowledge them with a peaceful smile. Can you feel the yin energy? The deep, quiet, constant, feminine energy? Can you feel the supreme feminine energy that they embody? Can you feel their supreme Intelligence? Say thank you to them. And send them a wave of Pure Love. See them bathe in that Love and absorb that love.

-Take your attention to your labia. Breathe into your labia. See and appreciate the beauty of its Design. Pause there, and connect with the masterful outer expression of the inner Feminine Intelligence. Bring it a wave of Love. See that wave of Pure Love moving through your labia.

-take you attention to your hips and upper thighs. Notice and feel the mounts and curves. Feel the Abundance that they embody. Feel the essence of Sustenance, feel and appreciate the Life Force Energy that they enclose. Breathe this Appreciation into them and extend it to your buttocks.

-Take your attention to your lower back, go in to meet your Kidneys. Feel the Life Force in them, this is where your body draws its daily energy. They are the most precious reservoirs of Vital Force. Bow to them and send them an abundant wave of Pure Love. See them absorb that Love fully.

-Bring your attention into your abdominal cavity. Go to your liver. See if it needs peace and nurturing. Breathe into your liver absolute Love and Appreciation for it. Acknowledge all that it continuously does and provides for you. Acknolwedge its pure restless devotion to you. Say thank you to your liver. Send a Great wave of love into your liver. See your liver absorb that love.

-Take your attention to your breasts. Feel their Consciousness. See if they need love, attention or appreciation. Feel Compassion for them. Express to them how much you do appreciate them and love them. Let them know how much you love them. Bring them a Great wave of Love and see that love penetrate every cell of your breasts.

- Now take your attention to your face. See if you can relax your face a little more. Now see the color of Peace. Bring this color, this Energy of Peace to your face. See it coat your face, like a layer. Now see that layer of vibrant Peace sink into your face. Allow your face to drink in that peace. Now breathe Love into your face. Feel every cell of your face rejoice in this Love.

- Slowly come back to the room your are sitting in. Welcome back.


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Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Create more space within you to attract abundance!

Are you experiencing financial scarcity?

The most important thing to know is that you cannot be disconnected from your Inner Light, or your Divine Source and be connected to the ever flowing source of Abundance. You can't be unplugged from Spirit, and be plugged into all which comes from Spirit.

You now may be thinking this:
Some people create a lot of financial abundance while being completely disconnected from their Inner Light, fully engaged in their egos. It happens all the time!

How do they do it?

Simply put, they paid for it. Consider the following areas of life: Health and fitness; Friendship; Finances; Family; Service; Fun; Purpose; Spiritual Growth; Romantic Relationships.

Basically, they traded the energy in one area of their life such as Family, Health or Purpose, for more gain in the area of Finances. They did this because a part of them perceives the area of Finances as more valuable than other areas. Because of this perception, they took the energy that should have been allocated towards cultivating harmonious bonds with their family, or towards maintaining a healthy body, or towards nurturing a romantic relationship and re-allocated that energy to generate money.

The problem is that taking the Energy of one part of your life to give it to another part of your life, creates imbalance. Imbalance can show up as feeling unfulfilled, lonely, fatigued, frustrated, bitter, stressed, unhealthy, isolated even while surrounded by a crowd. People who generate money while being disconnected from their Inner Light burn through their Spiritual Energy Reserves, until the inevitable deterioration of one or more areas of their life happens. They may experience deterioration of their friendships, their health, or the inability to attract and create a meaningful romantic relationship.

Being disconnected from God also means that you are not connected to who you are. You are no longer in touch with your own heart and soul and are running persona after persona. A persona is a part of your ego that holds its own negative belief about itself or the world, and behaves in a way to avoid the perceived potential for pain. A persona is not real, it is a synthetic part of you trying to pass itself for the real you. It is essentially created as a protective mechanism. When we are constantly running one persona or another, genuine intimacy and closeness with others becomes impossible. Relationships become difficult, superficial, stressful, dull, meaningless, unfulfilling or even toxic. Relationships while running personas can be very depleting because it takes a lot of energy to unconsciously run a “fake you”. Personas are not your natural state and slowly drain you. A painful feeling of isolation is then experienced.

People will attempt to compensate for their unhappiness in various ways. They may keep themselves constantly busy or surround themselves with a lot of people. They subconsciously try to avoid feeling lonely, which keeps them further from connecting with their soul. Or they may over-eat trying to fill in the emptiness inside, or abuse alcohol or drugs to temporarily relieve themselves from their painful emotions. Some may use anti-depressants to completely suppress all feelings and emotions, which also means, by the same token, extinguishing joy, love, and compassion.

To attract abundance in a way that truly serves you and the Highest Good of all, you must first connect with the Divine part of yourself. It is vital to establish a stronger connection to God. This ensures you peace, trust, clarity, steadfastness. To establish a stronger connection to God, who is Truth, you must clear what is falsehood inside of you.

How do we do that?

Here is an easy technique:

1) Close you eyes. Go inward. Breathe into your heart.

2) Find a peaceful place within one of the four chambers of your heart.

3) Rest there for a minute and enjoy the peace.

4) Feel your entire body breathe in the oxygen you inhale.

5) Forget that you are the body, and imagine you are a spirit inhabiting every cell of this body.

6) Be grateful that you were given this machine to move around in the physical dimension.

7) Declare the following intention: “ I now choose to let go of all that which is false within me and my life.” Breathe in, breathe out. Repeat the intention. Breathe. Notice what comes to mind. What thoughts? What images? What feeling and emotions?

8) Put all that came to mind-, i.e images, thoughts, feelings and emotions in front of you into a bubble. Send this bubble down into a swirling vortex. See the vortex vacuum the bubble down into the center of the Earth.

9) Now invite what you want into your auric field. Visualize the scenarios. Place them into your field. Feel the emotions.

10) Be grateful. Thank your Higher Self- you just created space within you for more Light: you strengthened your connection to Spirit and are now a better vibrational match to Abundance.





2 Comments on "Create more space within you to attract abundance!"

Emily commented on Thursday, July 28, 2011
Thanks Lilia! I realized that I allocate way too much energy towards my relationships...I never have enough energy to take care of the rest properly.

Manjunath commented on Thursday, July 28, 2011
One only needs to reflect upon their own experiences in this life to realize that what you've written here is the truth. I intend to employ the technique you described. Thanks for offering light to the world!

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Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Clearing Guilt Over a Situation or Behavior

Did you do or say something that you regret and feel guilty about? Something you wish you could go back in time to undo, cancel, change? 
 
 
1) Locate in your body the vibration of guilt, along with the picture of the situation stuck in your head that you wish to cancel, forgive, and transmute.

2) Pull that vibration and picture out of you and put it all into a bubble.

3) Place your hands close to the bubble and start infusing it with the energy of Compassion.  What color is compassion for you?  

4) Continue to infuse your bubble with Compassion while repeating the name of God over and over again (pick the word(s) that resonates best with you).

5) Continue until the bubble pops! All is now vanished.

Blessings!
Lilia



6 Comments on "Clearing Guilt Over a Situation or Behavior"

Gahana commented on Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Oh, I love this tool, Lilia!! Powerful! My purple bubble popped pretty quickly. Thank YOU! xoxoxo

Lesley commented on Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Lilia! Thank you for sharing your wisdom of the necessity of self-compassion in healing. Your direction to repeat God's name is a great reminder that left to our egoic self, we may feel limited in our ability to let it go! What a powerful exercise!

John commented on Saturday, April 2, 2011
Ahhh... what a wonderful and freeing feeling it was to let it go... Such a simple, yet powerful technique. Thank you!

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TJ commented on Wednesday, July 27, 2011
You are a great friend and anyone is lucky to know you...

Rhonda commented on Saturday, July 30, 2011
I have been doing a lot of meditation and working on my Aura and connecting to my Divine spirit, but this simple technique is very effective and very good. Thank you very much for sharing this.

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Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Our children are mirrors of our own hidden patterns

Today a client shared with me in session that her seven year old daughter uses "talking" as a diversion strategy to avoid having to answer her mother's "unpleasant" questions, such as "what was the tantrum you threw earlier about?" Her daughter would start talking about something completely unrelated, like something she watched on TV or anything that would take her mother's attention away from the original topic.

So I asked my client this question: "what part of you avoids confrontation and conflict?". It turned out that my client had a part or a persona, that would avoid uncomfortable situations and conversations by fear of not being able to face the possible consequences that would be engendered by expressing herself to a person with whom she disagreed with.

This persona was created when she was very young, about two years old. As a young child she could feel that her mother was always on the verge of an anger outburst. She remerbered that "disturbing" her mom by asking for what she wanted or needed was "not safe", and she remembered clearly that she tried her best not to add stress to her mother. So she would make herself small and quiet, and solely complained about anything. She learned at a young age to avoid to speak anything that could cause conflict, or emotional discomfort.

Today as an adult, that pattern continued. She admitted avoiding conflicts with the other moms at the school, when organizing a school party or a parent dinner. She shared that a lot of time she disagreed with other parents about different matters but would not communicate as to not create tension. As the session continues, she came to realize how much of her energy she allocated to avoiding confrontation all around in her life.

What is crucial to understand here, is that her seven year old daughter was mirroring back to her mom the unwilligness to engage into discussions of "unpleasant" nature. We must always remember that our children are perfect reflections of our own inner unresolved energies.

In light, love and gratitude,
Lilia



7 Comments on "Our children are mirrors of our own hidden patterns"

Brandon commented on Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Hmmm, something to think about. Interesting and insightful. Thanks Lilia!

Ron Manjunath commented on Wednesday, March 2, 2011
"Mirror, mirror on the wall...", I think everyone is a mirror for everyone else. We are all living mirrors - basically we live in a huge human hall of mirrors. We can also observe ourselves in our own inner mirror but we need to make sure our glass isn't cloudy or dirty. We need to keep it clear. Its an on-going, endless process to do this.

Natalia commented on Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Indeed! Beautifully said.

Gahana commented on Wednesday, March 9, 2011
I agree. We are all mirrors. Either positive or negative projections of ourselves. I work with autistic children, and they are very clear reflections of what's going on inside of me. I agree 100% with this statement. Great blog!! Keep em coming. xoxo

your name commented on Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Wow Lilia. I see some potential for a movement for parents in terms of Conscious Parenting...
Beautiful!

Stefan commented on Tuesday, July 26, 2011
I think it's difficult to analyse all the aspects of complex persons i.e. us.

Now the question for the daughter, is it good or bad to avoid conflicts? all the communication courses nowadays teach how to avoid conflicts, reformulating and so on.

However it is certainly a problem for her mother, as being part of a conflict is just being as whole part of the society. As told me one friend of mine Sabrina at that time she was psycho teacher for kids : "kleine Kinder kleine Probleme, große Kinder große Probleme" small kids, small problems, big kids, big problems.

your name commented on Saturday, July 30, 2011
Knowing that your words are motivated as intention to help people know their truth and experience fulfilling lives, is such a gift.

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Thursday, November 18, 2010
Grieving Lungs, Angry Liver

In a recent session with one of my clients, I will call her Jamie, something truly unusual and remarkable happened. Jamie wanted to work on whatever was inside of her that kept her from being in a romantic relationship. She looked happy but had a little cold. We proceeded and started the session. She shared that she felt lonely and could not understand why none of her dates ever turned into something meaningful.
Jamie is a true “uplifter”. In social settings she always offers a radiant smile to all, and NEVER complains. She is the shining sun and joyful singing bird. She is so pleasant to be around, so approachable and is such a beautiful woman inside and out, that it can be truly puzzling that none of her dates ever turned into something more serious, despite her apparent willingness.

Intuitively, it was clear to me that something was hiding behind this radiant smile. As we delved into the session, we came face to face with a part that Jamie labeled “the disconnected one”. We found out that this part was blocking her from truly connecting with men. Jamie had gone through a painful break up some years prior, and the "disconnected one’s" task was to protect her. She was to be all smiles and to keep things light and pleasant with men, so as to never open up by fear to allow someone into her heart again. So the men she dated all matched her energetically: they kept things light and meaningless with her. I asked Jamie what the primary emotion of that persona was, but she was confused as to what that was, which is typical when someone is very identified with a persona. So I asked her where the emotion was held in her body- Jamie with her eyes closed proceeded to place both of her index fingers to two specific points (the same bilaterally). To my astonishment, Jamie had pointed to a point on the upper aspect of her chest, close to her axillary fold, or underarm area. This point, bilateral on the human body, is referred to in Chinese medicine as Lung 1 (see picture above). This point has many indications such as coughing, bronchitis, and throat problems, as well as prolonged grief and sadness. Jamie, a dancer and actress, had no knowledge of acupuncture whatsoever. But she instinctively pointed to an actual acupuncture point on her body! I was astounded. So naturally, I asked Jamie if the "disconnected one" was sad. Jamie started to cry, nodding a yes. Often sadness is experienced in the broader areas of the throat and center of the chest or even in the abdomen. But since Jamie was unable to feel the emotion at that moment, her Higher Self answered me in the language of acupuncture. In doing so, her Higher Self revealed not only one of the primordial causes of the lack of true intimacy in her life, but also most probably a major playing factor in her recurring cold issue, because quite literally put, her lungs were sad.

It is important to know that major organs are associated with particular emotions such as sadness for the lungs, or a particular negative behavior that people will engage into, such as the inability to make a decision when the gallbladder is affected . When you experience a negative emotion, it directly affects a specific organ. For example, when getting angry, a lot of energy will move upward causing headaches, dizziness, a red complexion, and blood shot eyes. In severe cases, it can even cause an aneurism, a rupture of a blood vessel in the brain caused by an abnormal increase of the cranial blood pressure. In Chinese medicine, those are all signs that the life force of the liver also called “liver qi”, is rising. It is call "Liver Yang Rising". Most people may not have an outburst of anger every day, but they certainly get frustrated on a daily basis. I call frustration the little sister of anger, and each bit of its energy gets accumulated into the energetic make-up of the liver, and eventually, when the load becomes too great, it densifies going from the emotional subtle body, to penetrating and affecting the tissues of the physical body. Now tangible symptoms such as hypertension are experienced.

Often, people who suffer from hypertension will have particular points along the meridian of the liver channel running along the body that are sore and tender to palpation. When I come across a point that is sore, I ask my client questions such as “ what part of your life angers you or frustrates you?”. From there, we together go on a quest to identify the part of themselves or persona that is angry. What is his or her story? What “sets her off”? What is her behavior? What was the original point of “pain” at which she was first created? This is powerful. Bringing light and recognizing the “part” of you that holds the negative energy that triggered the physical illness in the first place, can support physical wellness and healing.

People often suffer from chronic illnesses that could have been avoided had they habitually transmuted the negative emotion when experienced. Keeping a hygienic emotional body is as important as keeping the physical body clean. It is important to “check in” and be present to what your body is telling you. Do you experienced tension in your abdomen, dull pain in your flank areas, or recurrent headaches? Do you experience tension in your back? To avoid full blown illnesses later, it is vital to never ignore the "minor" signs and symptoms that show up in your body. They are indicators of two things: 1) stagnant energy that needs to be transmuted that negatively affect your body, and 2) they are energetic blockages that keep away the things that you want to manifest in you life. The sadness of Jamie’s persona that she called the “disconnected one”, not only contributed to the recurrence of her colds and thereby weakening her lungs, but also kept her energetically from being open to romantic intimacy, even though it is exactly what Jamie desired.




3 Comments on "Grieving Lungs, Angry Liver"

your name commented on Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Such an amazing story and it clearly proves the connection between our emotional and physical suffering.
Great Job Lilia !!

John Carnessali commented on Friday, February 25, 2011
Wow Lila.... you have an amazing ability to allow others to explore their space in a safe and revealing way. Thank you.

Shane commented on Friday, July 1, 2011
Wow great post and has helped to expand my own understanding of how negative emotions and their energies affect the physical body. Keep up the good work. I definitely want to know more, can you recommend a book/CD/DVD? Thanks.

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Monday, September 27, 2010
The Witch Who Needed To Be Loved

I had a powerful session yesterday with Mary. Mary wanted to "figure out what to do with her relationship". She was unhappy. She shared that her and her boyfriend constantly argued. In her opinion, the root cause of all the bickering was that he never had "nice little attentions" towards her. She did not think that he acted very lovingly towards her and did not make her feel special. She felt unloved and unappreciated by him. And of course, her attacks only made him less loving.

After further discussion, we discovered that there was a personna, or a part of Mary's ego, that needed to be loved. A little perplexed, Mary asked " but doesn't everyone need to be loved?". I explained that many people have a personna, a part of their ego, that needs to be loved. People's Higher Self embraces love and gives love. The Higher Self is love Itself. It cannot need that which it already fundamentally is.

During the integration, Mary was very surprised to see that the personna looked like a witch: she had a crutch, was hunched back, and was quite scary looking. We found out that the core belief of that personna was " I am not lovable". From that negative belief, a lot of pain and sadness was held deep inside of her chest. So the Witch would come out and apply pain to anyone who she perceived to be a potential source of love.

After we were done transforming the personna, I pointed out to Mary that as long as she harbored the energy of "I am not lovable" within her, she would keep attracting relationships and experiences that would fulfill that core belief. Her boyfriend was only serving Mary by reflecting back at her the deep belief that she held about herself.

Remember, your life experience is only but a feedback mechanism to make you aware of the wounds inside of you that are yet to be healed.

Many blessings…
Lilia



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Sylvia commented on Monday, December 20, 2010
Thank you for sharing this... I too think I am dealing with years of thinking I'm not lovable and not worthy of a relationship. You have inspired me by this and I want to do more.



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